Today would have been my dad's 80th birthday. He always loved his birthday and the fact that it was celebrated on a special day. A day of remembering - Armistice Day, as they call it in England, where he spent a good part of his life.
We had lots of parties to celebrate the milestones in his life, and I'd be remiss if I didn't honor what what would have been a special day, if he was still here. Instead, we'll honor his life, without him, though he is always in our hearts.
Richard Hadcock was a special man who accomplished so much. He rose from aircraft apprentice to become an aeronautical engineer of international standing and he was a leading authority on structural analysis and on the use of composite materials in aircraft design and manufacturer.
He was a writer, talented amateur painter, a military historian, a Boy Scout leader for many years (I remember the stories about the eggs freezing and the piles of camping equipment and dirty laundry), and a volunteer for his church and local civic organizations.
Most importantly, to us, his family, he was a terrific husband, who took great care of my mom after she had a stroke, and a wonderful dad to his four children and the best grandpa to his grandchildren. He never passed up an opportunity to go to the beach, the zoo, or the park.
He was always game - even up to the end - we were able to create some special memories on our last trip to the beach (it still pains me to go without him) and to the arboretum on his and my mom's 50th anniversary. He was thrilled that he was able to make that very special milestone and was hoping for a few more.
It wasn't meant to be and he left us with the same grace, courage, and good cheer (really - he said he'd lived a good long life and it was time to move on) with which he lived his life.
We miss him.
The article I wrote when my dad died, Without Hope We Have Nothing, is, sadly, as timely today as it was three and half years ago. On the good news front though, the genetic blueprint for pancreatic cancer was decoded by a team at the Sol Goldman Pancreatic Cancer Research Center at Johns Hopkins in September.
This month is Pancreatic Cancer Awareness Month and if you can give to help with research or awareness, please do. Pancreatic Cancer is a particularly nasty cancer that few survive, and the 4th leading cause of cancer deaths in the U.S.